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Kat21 |
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so im 21 years old and recently moved back in with my parents. i dropped out of school 3 times and have never held a job for more than 2 months. i feel like a
worthless piece of sh*t. my dad and mom came in my room at 8:30 saying its time to get up!! PLEASE GET UP. and they gave me a list of things to do today. i
know i cant do anything right now. i popped a xanax hopefully that will make me feel better but i HATE taking medication. im at the f*ck it point. today my mom
yelled "youre making me and your father want a divorce" like IM SORRY! want me to kill myself so you dont have to deal with me????? im going to a new
psychiatrist on november 17th bc i dont like my one ive had for years bc hes really old. i feel SO hopeless. and last night i used my credit card again to go
see a movie when my mom got pissed at me for charging 800 dollars last month. i hate my impulsive spending. I FEEL LIKE A F*CKING LOSER
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Qelyn |
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Well you are only 21 after all..... I don't know of many 21 year olds who have it all together..... It sounds like you do need some sort of direction
though, something that drives you to get out of bed in the morning..... Since I have joined the gym I am typically out of bed by 8:30 or 9:00 getting ready to
go and I seem to have a lot more energy in the day now that I am doing that.... It takes about 2 hours out of my day but it is 2 hours I typically slept away
anyway.....
And since I have soccer for myself too I tend to feel like I have things that give me drive and purpose causing me to want to do things that constitute having a life..... However my current meds have really helped me get into my life and enjoy it..... I am much more interested in things that are good for me now that I am doing these things, making healthy choices like the gym and soccer..... Its amazing the difference, before the meds I was sort of living in limbo waiting for life to happen to me now I make things happen in my life that cause fulfillment and happiness..... I enjoy waking up in the morning now.... Q |
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whynot |
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I'm in pretty much the same place. I'm 21 too, at times I feel like the supreme queen of messing up everything.
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Kat21 |
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thank you for the replies!!!! Qelyn, what med are you on??? i want to try a new antidepressant. i was on zoloft 2 years and i hated it
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Qelyn |
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I am on cymbalta and geodon..... The cymbalta alone did not work for me, the atypical psychotic is important in controlling moods and slowing thoughts.....
Another important component is exercise...... It elevates mood and energy levels..... Q |
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hmssws |
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Geodon has worked well for me also.......I take Wellbutrin for the Antidepressant portion.......Hang in there and keep working towards recovery......We all
have to start somewhere......Probably multiple times for most of us, so don't get discouraged.....It will get better with time and treatment.....
General Richard Garnett to General Lo Armistead just before they died leading their troops heroicly accross the open fields at Gettysburg in Pickett's
Charge:
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betterme |
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You might try getting some books on BPD. If I had only read and investigated my illness when I was 21 instead of feeling like a victim or blaming others, I
might not have the issues I do some 20 years later. Make your recovery your job it will be the most rewarding one you will ever have. ......and exercise helps!
Good luck!
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Dont Fear The Reaper |
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You will get through this. This is all perfectly normal to be honest. I know you may not like the idea of pills, but they really do help quite a bit. You seem
to be really pushing yourself to being a certain way that you aren't able to make yourself do. Are your parents aware of what BPD really entails? I know my
mom didn't until I had my last mental breakdown. I want you to know that how you are feeling is okay. You are only human. I know not being able to work can
really drag down your self confidence(I know I went through it ), but try to give yourself more understanding for that. I myself cannot work at all from having
BPD. At first it made me so bad that I felt I was just another loser about to go on welfare. But that is far from true. You gotta give yourself the option to
say I can't do something. Like with work. If you feel you are just not stable enough to work a job than there is always another way. Hang in there. I
promise things will get better.
Come on baby, don't fear the reaper.
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DN |
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I'm 21 also and feel incredibly lost and disappointing... I feel like everyone in my life is let down by me, since I usually don't hold down jobs for
too long. I've been lucky in that when I "flake out" on a job I can usually do it on good terms and move "up the ladder", but in
reality it just makes people see me as unstable and worthless. I've also had school issues... I failed half my classes the first semester of college, then
got into business school and dropped out, then did an EMT program and didn't take the job after passing and have just been floating around. I've put a
lot of effort into training horses but no one in my family gives me credit or considers it a "real" job even though thats where I made most of my
money....
Just hang in there. I think a lot of us have been through this. We just need to remember that we're young and have time to figure life out! Reading Dalai Lama books have really helped me, since it's a different perspective on where values should be based... and the meditating makes me feel worthwhile, I find myself in such a better frame of mind. Usually I meditate after I realize that I spent the day or even week telling myself how worthless I am! *hug* Just tell yourself others have been there and the fact that you are breathing makes you worthwhile! |
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i can definitely relate to you. I'm 20 and just recently got kicked out of school for my impulsive behaviors. well, i was asked to voluntarily withdraw
until i can get myself together. i'm living with my parents and it's so hard with them always criticizing me and wanting me to get up at a certain time
and do things that i just have no motivation to do. if you want to talk e-mail me! artista_segreta@yahoo.com
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