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DBT is about learning ways to actively combat and changed flawed thinking and responses. It can be done one to one but is often in a group session. The person leading the group maintains contact with your therapist or treating team( or did with me). It is hard to explain but involves keeping diaries and workbooks and charts and practice practice practice.It also teaches helpful skills in being aware of yourself and what is happening around you, relaxation and meditation, ways to diffuse a potential situation, means of distracting yourself etc. Eventually you can get to a space where you recognise the triggers for your targeted behaviours (things you want to change ie aggession, self injury etc) and take actions that are helpful.
Someone here said we need to use a four legged stool to sit with BPD, using DBT is a good strong leg and with things like medication and therapy ( oops I've forgotten the 4th leg!!!) help make a very steady stool.
You can do online and self applied DBT workshops and workbooks, I would reccomend face to face if you are new to it.

I have done Cognitive Behavioural Training. CBT focuses on your intellect. CBT is very useful and I use a lot of self talk and prep from it. DBT focuses on both your intellect and your emotion. DBT is leading edge treatment for BPD though and I have found that very very useful in recognising body/emotion ques and acting to prevent being triggered or to shut a triggered reaction down. I suggest you go with the CBT and when you've done that re raise the topic of DBT. If your therapist is not DBT trained she can refer you to someone or a program that is.