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I have a reasonable amount of energy available at present but I have found that once I expend it, that is it, there is no more to be had. I just can't run on empty any more. I did that a lot when younger, I would just go and go and go then fall flat on my face. Now I go a bit and sit for a while and go a bit more and stop!!
I think BPD is high maintenance. There are a lot of things I have to stay on top of in order to remain well. Some of the things I use that are not related to cost are drawing, listening to music, baths and showers, meditation/relaxation, reading, journaling, riding my trike along the river, the computer, my three cats. Something I find very important is that the first hour of the day is mine. I will get up earlier if I need to to achieve this. I do 20 minutes of relaxation/visualisation, list what I need to see to during that day, Do some stretching, make a pot of tea and open my emails and plan my day. I use a diary and plan breaks and catch up with others in a very organised way. Looking at tommorrow I can see that I have coffee and catch up with two friends at 10am, I have a block of work from 11.30 - 3.30, etc etc I can also see that I need to pick up items from the supermarket and catfood from the petshop, I have already decided what I will eat and know how much insulin I need to be carrying etc. I jot it down as I think of it and pay a little attention to the diary morning and night.
But I only have myself (and my cats and my elderly parents) to think and plan around. Perhaps you could start with just 30 minutes each day that was just yours. Coffee and a read of the paper, a daydream in the bath, a walk around the block, sit in the sun. I think we have to find ways to continually recharge, even a couple of minutes to remember to breathe deeply or stretch right out.
Consistent sleep ( I can't do sleep deprivation I fall into black depression) good nutrition, drink lots of water, some sort of exercise these all add up to building a solid foundation.
Communication, attention to those I love, accepting love and support in return, counting my blessings, joy in the moment, teflon coating(letting the unimportant slip away/ accepting what I can't control or change.
Of course there are still things that come out of the blue and they tax my energy and well being. and lots of times I get it wrong, turn up in the right place on the wrong day. Lose my keys, struggle with a work deadline. I just try to manage as best I can, I laugh a lot and admit when I am struggling and sometimes I cry. I am slower than some others but I get there in one piece.
God I sound like an agony aunt giving advice!!! Reading what you are juggling you already have many skills and enough insight to forsee a difficulty. These are formidable tools in managing BPD. Can you plan a bit of self maintenance into the mix. It really pays off over time. Good luck, keep posting and forgive me for writing such a long reply.