I was wondering if you had a child call you out mid- MAJOR - outburst. As in feeling completely low, worthless, life is gone WRONG and everyone is against
you - you're cutting people off, defaming them etc. - and to your kids too. I'm talking major overhaul of life, anger, frustration etc. What would be
the best way to approach it? Where it might sink in to you that you're being somewhat irrational in your reaction and detrimentally so.
I have thought of various scenarios, and I can't picture one in which i'd react well if i were this blind to my condition or something. (I have it too)
- you see the person has NO IDEA they have bpd or anything wrong with them, and prides themself on knowing everything psych. so refuses to see anything as
well. They've had smeone justifying their behavior at all times throughout life and stopped comm. with anyone who challenged things at all so it really is
impossible to get through. what would you do?
advice, suggestions, hyper-analysed scenarios are all welcome...thanks!
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Posts: 12 (08/04/09 14:42:29) |
I myself have been told by my kids they don't feel as if i love them. The thing is that they are my reason. I wouldn't care so much without them. It
might possibly help u to find out what triggers ur outbursts and get out of the situation as soon as possible. I hide out in my bathroom and just concentrate
on breathing until I feel I am in control again and not this disorder. For u it might be a car ride, walk, music, whatever works. May I ask how old ur kids r?
I have a 17 yr old senior, 16 yr old freshman, and 13 yr old 8th grader. I set them down and had a talk with them and explained that sometimes mommies get
upset too (which lets them know it's ok to feel that way themselves) and need some time out. I hope this helps somewhat. Be thinking about u.
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Posts: 405 (08/05/09 05:45:17) |
I find myself in a funny place in between two generations. My father has BPD traits but not diagnosed. Both my sisters have depressive, OCD and BPD traits. And
I have a 27 year old son too. I find the more I understand my own psychological make up the more I understand those around me and the dynamics of my family.
There are things I can work on, changes that can be made, but there are things I will never fully unravel. The more I forgive myself my differences the easier
it is to be warm and accepting of those around me. I have a very close relationship with my son. He has forgiven me many of my mistakes. What surprises me is
how he can point out so many instances of where I got it right. And I can do that with my own parents too. I know I am loved and I know I love in return. In
the end that is all that really counts. That I do my best. I try very hard. I'm sure that is your intention too.
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