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Posts: 15 (06/09/09 03:04:44) |
There's something about me I really don't understand and it drives my BF crazy, not to mention myself. I question people close to me more than I
question strangers, if I do at all. I raise more hell with men I'm "committed" to then people I've had flings with, people who surely were
only out to use me. I don't understand this. Why do I afford more trust to strangers than those I love?
Am I the only one who does this? |
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Posts: 873 (06/09/09 08:24:42) |
Its about the intimacy.....
You get closer emotionally therefore it is more dangerous because you can get hurt by someone who you are close to...... Its actually pretty common with BPD to have more problems with people who are closer to you..... Q |
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Posts: 151 (07/03/09 18:46:32) |
Q was certainly correct....Borderlines may act strangely in very emotionally close, committed relationships because we're so scared of getting hurt by the
person we truly love. Questioning them may be our subconscious of "pushing them away" a little bit, even.
I question everyone really...every person I've been very serious with which involved emotional feelings (and my husband now), and also just flings I've had. Although I never worked well with "flings" because I get so emotionally attached to people... so I always ended up falling in love with people who simply only wanted me for a "good time." With me, both relationships...or any kind of relationship really, spark a lot of my emotions in me and result in me getting too attached. It's not healthy, I know......but, so of course either way, I'd question things. I question everyone. |
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Posts: 71 (07/04/09 23:16:42) |
I totally do this. Q and HH are completely right.
In the end it only does harm because I end up treating the people I love like crap. It's a defense mechanism that gets my absolutely nowhere! Now because I'm so aware of it I just avoid relationships altogether. |
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Posts: 17 (07/05/09 03:33:00) |
I'm on my way to avoiding relationships altogether.
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Posts: 155 (07/05/09 07:03:30) |
Me too.........
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Posts: 78 (07/08/09 22:11:35) |
No.... don't be as stupid as I am!
I'm a very stubborn person and I make these snap decisions which I refuse to back down on... (unless maybe Mr Darcy was to come along)... but anyways, don't do as I do. It leads to a lonely empty life... unless of course you have heaps of friends to keep you happy (unfortunately I don't). Anyway I've managed this way for so long because I have my kitty for company and he is the sunshine of my life... I've also recently found out he is dying of kidney disease and only has weeks left. I haven't mentioned it before now because I've been in denial. All this makes me kind of wish I had friends and relationships - because it's going to be a really lonely place when my baby is gone. |
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