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My BPD girlfriend always needs "space" after we spend a lot of intimate time together. That soon degenerates into "leave me alone!" After a long relationship, I can't deal. I also can't deal with is obvious sabotage she sets up (inane decisions), then she waits for me to get mad, then, she goes. She has chased me for years, with determination. It's confusing. She wants a commitment. I can't if she always has to run for a few days or a week, not answering phone and she later says doing nothing but sitting at home. I have a very strong personality. I know she loses herself with me. She gets absorbed quickly. I also can read that she is in love with me, at least more than anyone else. I have a question. I'm a good looking guy and she is often paranoid of other women. She always says she loves me more and I'm going to leave her. We break up often because I have a strong personality and I'm the opposite of a doormat. She's passive agressive, I can't deal, we get space. I come down hard and logically and place firm boundaries. She cheated once (me too) but her cheating seemed more devastating for her. Seemed to hurt her more. when she did it Lately, I think she is cheating because I think she's convinced I'm leaving no matter what I say. At the same time, she's getting extremely more intimate and boomeranging with me. Are there good tip offs in behavior to indicate cheating, from your own perspective of having BPD? Things she might say or do? I assume it's standard stuff. This is the toughest thing to know about BPD, honestly, and not know what's happening when she gets very angry and seeks her space.