I am definitely convinced that my daughter BPD and perhaps bi-polar. I have worked as a nurse in psych, and I always wondered how you could distinguish
between the two. Since, my daughter was young, I have had problems with her. In elementary school, I had her tested, and they come with depression and
anxiety. I did everything they suggested. FF to hs, she starts to shoplift. She has shoplifted numerous times, has always been a pathological liar. I have
learned not to believe her, ever. It is almost as she does no have a conscience when it comes to lying. She has stolen from family members. And, I have had
her in counseling, seeing a psychiatrist. One psychiatrist, believed that perhaps, she may have a diagnosis of bi-polar. but, she quit going to him, due to
insurance issues.(she was 19 at the time) Her primary dr. was treating her for depression/anxiety. However, she has never been compliant with meds. And,
yes, she is an opiate addict. Currently, she is in methadone treatment.
She is a job hopper. She can never hold a job.(and she has a 2 y.o. child to support)
I have reached a point where I cannot stand my own daughter. She is so needy. She has always been, but lately, she is taking over my personal space. And,
she is always argumentative with me. She is disrespectful, and does not talk to me like I am her mother.
She has kinda moved in,(uninvited) with me. I have been staying with my elderly mother. I am married, but my husband is only here on the weekends, as his job
is 80 miles from here.
Let me explain, how she got around to pushing her way in at my mother's house. It was only to be for a night here and there. Also, she does have an apt.
Her and her ex bf just recently broke up.(volatile, abusive relationship) He has hit her. Anyways, last fight escalated, and he took the baby with him. (My
daughter only had physical custody. Neither of them had legal custody.) the father refused let her or me see him. I convinced her to get a protection order
against him, with the hopes we would get the baby back. However, since he did not hit the baby, they did not see him as threat. The protection order was
dropped again her as well. The judge believed that she was only trying to get baby back.(kinda true). Anyways, they are both trying to get custody of him.
For, now the judge has ordered that they both take turns, one week at a time. Poor baby is going to have some abandonment issues. I believe they are both
immature and have poor parenting skills. I would like to get custody, but that won't happen, unless the father willingly lets me have him. So, I would
like my daughter to get custody. My husband and I would get a house, and let her and baby live with us. As much, as I cannot get along with my daughter, I
would like to look out for my grandson. Okay, I realize that I got off topic of her BPD.
I have mentioned this to her before. And, the psych hospital where I worked never really diagnosed BPD. They were all "bi-polar". But, I am sure
that is for insurance purposes. When a pt. was known as borderline, they were just perceived as attention getters. These pts. were basically ignored.
I have been waiting for my dr. to find a new psychiatrist forever. But, I am going to let her primary care dr. know that I am convinced that she is definitely
borderline, and perhaps bi-polar. She has prescribed ant-depressants for her, but my daughter has never been compliant with meds. I told her that I am going
to treat her like I would a psych pt. and make sure she takes pills.
I have just ordered some books. Stop Walking on Eggshells and the workbook. Also, for her, I ordered a book titled, The Angry Heart.
I have reached a point where I feel that I cannot take it anymore. She is driving me crazy. Did I mention that she is very manipulative. I am very angry
with myself when I give in to her. I have decided to go to counseling myself to learn how to deal with her.
Sorry, this is so long.
I hope I find my way to peace someday soon.
