I see this is an old topic, but I have to reply that yup, me too. When my BF and i argue he always tells me I act like a little girl. It's very
frustrating. When I have fits, whether he's around or not, I regress to the state of a little girl. I don't get it.
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Why do I feel like a little girl?
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Posts: 14 (06/09/09 02:51:44) |
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Posts: 2 (08/07/09 22:09:22) |
Wow its so weird that in therapy and regular social situations I always feel so young. It's comforting to know that other BPD suffer the same things and
that I'm not alone. How do you guys cope with accepting yourself with flaws?
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Posts: 258 (08/07/09 22:14:37) |
I accept myself with my flaws because I know that I am a kind and caring person underneath it all.........Plus I'm ols and used to my flaws.....
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Posts: 3 (08/07/09 22:21:10) |
@hmssws: hope to get there with you some day! :-) I just started DBT counseling so I should feel better about myself and handle my emotions better after a
while.
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Posts: 260 (08/08/09 09:39:52) |
The strange thing is acceptance did not solve things for me......It was and is a good thing.....It was a step........But it still did not make or allow me like
myself.......It just made me more comfortable in a sense......
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Posts: 17 (08/08/09 10:18:21) |
Hey,
I just turned 26 and still feel like an angst ridden teen most of the time!! My therapist says that is probably to do with the age you were when a trauma happened (13 in my case) and to cope with the horror our mind almost shatters and a part of it splinters off to deal with the bad thing while the rest of you grows up. This is why sometimes i'm "age appropriate" like raising kids, having a job, running a home but other times, mostly when I feel like i'm losing control or have lost it due to drink etc. I am like a 13yr old girl running about like a mad thing! There is a good side to not being as mature as other people, it makes things alot more fun and I don't have the inhibitions and hang-ups about looking like a fool but it can be dangerous when my emotions are running high because I have very childish responses to feeling bad which ultimately make me feel worse. Its a tricky one!! (did any of that make sense??scattered brain today!) |
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Sickman |
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Posts: 1 (09/18/09 07:01:01) |
Like Gypsy said, i wish to be grown up too because nothing is real this way.But... only wishing it can't help! Lately i have turned the tide to ESCAPE the
childishness. The key for me is to try satisfying MY needs, whatever they be, having fun on my own, boosting my ego( which didn't exist), feeling satisfied
when someone respects you or fear you because you have power( it doesn't mean you hurt that person, just that u dominate which is a good feeling), most
importantly not caring what someone thinks of you.
I stopped idealizing people and try to think in the direction what i can get from them, what indulges ME. I try not to THINK HEAVILLY, because it feels bad. I used to be a do-gooder idealist, not hurting anyone, caring for everyone, like Winona Ryder in Alien whom Ripley called asshole model for that reason, and was WEAK as you can get. And during my ILLNESS when i got sick i always felt and made clear to therapists that i felt like a 3-4 year old. I thought that was ok. How FOOLISH i was. The ONLY PROBLEM i have now is that selfasteem is low and i get fears all the time, but am learning skills to feel good about myself. I am on my own, i am strong and i don't give a ... |
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a sinking soul |
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Posts: 1 (09/24/09 15:43:45) |
hi im new to chatting on forums, im a 22 year old female whos been diagnosed with borderline personality disoreder for about 2 years now, and yes, i do feel
like a small child around 3 - 4 years oold. its embarrasing but i find myself needing affection, and i have even recently turned to buying a babies bottle to
drink out of for comfort. its so embarrasing i dont know why i need to.
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Posts: 1 (09/26/09 19:20:27) |
I've had the problem with feeling immature for a long long time. I always just thought it was because i'm a single mom and had to grow up really fast.
At work and in my vocational classes I always feel like everyone is judging me for my immaturity. I write myself little notes to just shut up! and to think
before I speak I always just thought I was being overly critical of myself and maybe I am but I'm glad there are people out there who feel like this too.
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Posts: 3 (10/08/09 15:38:15) |
i actually act older then my age...
but i can identify with the "lost girl" thing. i think my ex actually found that appealing at first. but as we got closer and i stared to treat him badly he didn't think it was so great anymore i don't think. |
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Faceless |
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Posts: 4 (12/01/09 10:53:48) |
Im 28 years old but feels like im 15... have no idea what going on around me, who im and what im want, feeling yourself helpless and stupid.Very very rarely
contrary...im absolutely undertsand anything, im 28, exactly understand who im and what im want and very very tired.Tired at anger and fear.Like a 90 years old
man who already just tired at live and dont want anything anymore.
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