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Unregistered(d)	What I hate the most...	Lead	[-]
Posts: 0 (04/11/08 19:09:12) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Tags : None Being a person who believes, I should be the one looking to encourage someone else, give a helping hand and not be so worried about putting myself out there, but I find myself being so needy, unable to give and always needing the prayer. Is that not truly sad and pathetic? If that isn't a waste, I don't know what is, but also don't know how to overcome it.
littlebird 420	Re: What I hate the most...	#1	[-]
Posts: 2635 (04/12/08 04:42:38) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	What you need to share, when you have nothing to give, is simply God's love. metta ~littlebird~ "Sometimes one creates a dynamic impression by saying something, and sometimes one creates as significant an impression by remaining silent." -- H.H. The 14th Dalai Lama. "Never let the 'ends,' the ideal, the revolutionary state, compromise your ethical judgment or the 'means' of how you achieve it." -- Albert Camus.
Unregistered(d)	Not always easy	#2	[-]
Posts: 0 (04/12/08 07:33:18) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	I would love to simply show God's love if nothing else. However, that is something that also is confusing with being diagnosed with BPD and the anger issues. Plus, the very low self-esteem. It is like I loathe or hate myself. They say you can't love someone unless if you don't love yourself. I don't even know how to love myself. This is a huge milestone for me. If I have one of those BP days and I'm a little more higher in my mood, it is possibly, but those days are few are far in between.
littlebird 420	Re: Not always easy	#3	[-]
Posts: 2635 (04/12/08 15:39:00) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	To me "God's love" has nothing to do with loving yourself. It has more to do with being sincere and helpful and good to all His creatures (even humans). Whether you love yourself is optional, but you still represent God in all you do. Therefore 'represent' as best as you are able. ~littlebird~ "Sometimes one creates a dynamic impression by saying something, and sometimes one creates as significant an impression by remaining silent." -- H.H. The 14th Dalai Lama. "Never let the 'ends,' the ideal, the revolutionary state, compromise your ethical judgment or the 'means' of how you achieve it." -- Albert Camus.
Tiglibud	Re: Not always easy	#4	[-]
Posts: 323 (04/13/08 13:48:54) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Very nicely put littlebird. I can't totally agree that it always works tho. IMO what I have found about being a vessel for our good Lord's love is that people tend to take advantage of it far too easily. Sometimes you need to look out first for yourself. As selfish as that might seem. You see, because before you can help another person your own life needs to be sorted. How can we be good vessels of GOD's love if we are bouncing around barely able to like ourselves from day to day. You do need to find love for yourself first, that is just fact. Nobody is going to save you from self-loathing but you...prayer helps and the bible will give inspiration. The hard part is battling the demons within your very own soul, then and only then...once at peace within yourself do I then think that those worthy of my love will come my way. I guess this seems jaded, but I've been used and abused enough to know that most people like to target those like myself with low self-worth and hurt me time and time again, and I'm sick of it.
Wisdom19572003	Re: Not always easy	#5	[-]
Posts: 3896 (04/13/08 18:59:13) Registered User Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Tiglibud, Well said. Wiz ***"I CRIED BECAUSE I HAD NO SHOES. THEN I MET A MAN WHO HAD NO FEET."***
littlebird 420	Re: Not always easy	#6	[-]
Posts: 2635 (04/13/08 19:38:29) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Tigli bud, i don't think you understand God's love the way I do. I'll pray for you. ~littlebird~ "Sometimes one creates a dynamic impression by saying something, and sometimes one creates as significant an impression by remaining silent." -- H.H. The 14th Dalai Lama. "Never let the 'ends,' the ideal, the revolutionary state, compromise your ethical judgment or the 'means' of how you achieve it." -- Albert Camus.
tigertalk		#7	[-]
Posts: 2 (08/30/08 03:36:00) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	I am diagnosed with the BPD. It is sometimes like living in hell. So I often think that I am not good enough to be able to attend life from day to day. I read the Bible, which always has a way to tell me I am not alone. We are all going to die, but nobody know when. So live like to the fullest. You will change, and change, and then again, change. But sometimes it is acting out to show you somethning you might need or something you forget to do. We are not in control of God. He is in control...Always and wants the best for all of us. So llike a little child who's angry at God, guidance will come very gently which is towards your well being. It is not your fault you were stuck with this label. it is a very painful place to be sometimes, with no way out until we let it go to God. God knows all and is in All. Just once in a while tell God you love Him, and let go of yourself. Control is an illusion. Love is the reality. I think you have to read the bible to undertand god. God was a person in Jesus. Read Hebrew.
rb1193		#8	[-]
Posts: 10 (09/17/08 03:51:39) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Ive shared on here before Im Christian and Istruggle with BPD traits,not diagnosed.I do understand the struggles people are having being Christians with this diagnosis.Its hard for one to depend on God IF their symptoms cause them to want to have the need to depend on people.I didnt say this in a jugdement way at all, I have issues myself ,I was using this as example.
gypsy		#9	[-]
Posts: 168 (09/19/08 08:43:06) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Isnt it a kind of a balancing act? share love, give people the benefit of the doubt, be kind, be generous but not be a total mug?. I can forgive those around me that have done "wrong" but choose not to be around them because they suck me dry, rip me off, abuse me etc etc. Maybe that is not gods way? dont you have to survive first and give love second? If you don't survive because of the abuse around u then you will have no love to give? this is confusing. Is forgiveness enough? Do you have to love them as well? gypsy
bohemianpirate		#10	[-]
Posts: 1 (11/02/08 14:43:35) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Since this one is called "What I hate the most" I will discuss exactly what I hate the most when it comes to religion. I am a part of a different faith. I am a pagan, and what I hate the most is religious intolerance. I have been laughed at, and treated badly for being a part of a different faith. And with BPD it doesn't really help a lot, to have such negative elvaluation. I don't really have problems with christans, I just don't like being ridiculed by them.
yoyogirl1957	life's tapestry	#11	[-]
Posts: 77 (11/03/08 00:53:33) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Hmmm, I think what everyone has said is correct...like different aspects of the same thing, like different parts of a tapestry.
miserable	I totally understand how you feel	#12	[-]
Posts: 1 (11/17/08 00:08:23) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	I struggle with the same feelings. I have lost most of my friends and the only reason i can think of is that i do come across so needy. I am really hoping to find some connection on here so that i don't feel so alone in this situation. If you have instant message or anything i would love to make you a chat buddy miserable
yoyogirl		#13	[-]
Posts: 52 (11/18/08 06:13:43) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	miserable, yeah, I know the feeling. Yesterday I hung out crocheting with a couple of acquaintances and the one woman who I'll call Cindy, is always high energy, laughing, joking and helping people despite all her own problems. Cindy was busy crocheting tons of stuff for a fundraiser for our local public library, coming up with another charity idea and offering to help Jean, (not her real name) clean and fix up an old trailer now that Jean has to downsize due to the bad economy. I sat there amazed as it took me forever working on a sweater for myself, wondering where Cindy gets all her energy to cheer people up and help them when I can barely get through the day to take care of myself. Today I made six handcrafted greeting cards as a gift for one of my friends. It took me all day and I ended up getting a migraine out of it. I've been thinking maybe it's not helpful for us to not compare ourselves to anyone else. Just like it would be unfair to expect that someone who cannot use their legs should walk. Maybe it is unfair for us to expect that we have enough energy to be helping other people all the time when we have just enough energy to take care of ourselves - and on really good days someone else once in awhile. Maybe growing in our faith is learning to accept our limitations and knowing that our best is good enough.
gypsy		#14	[-]
Posts: 345 (11/20/08 03:27:23) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Hear hear! "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes." Marcel Proust
scrip50		#15	[-]
Posts: 128 (11/21/08 06:23:31) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	When I'm in recovery I work two or three days a week, I participate in an outreach program to a drug and alcohol rehab and drop off donated clothing and toiletries to a homeless shelter. When I am un well some or all of these activities cease. Indeed I become the recipient of increased community services. Is there a difference in the quality of my christianity between well and unwell. God loves me through all the phases of my life. It's not what I can do but what I believe that counts. I find I am happy when able to do things, but I have faith that in my dark times I'm not alone and there is hope for recovery. It took a long time and many periods of being well to gain this insight. That things do pass. Change although often slow is possible. We are allowed to hope.
goodgirl	hi	#16	[-]
Posts: 33 (02/04/09 01:49:51) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	i totally agree that you should not be judged for being pagan or whatever religion it is that you choose... Who are we to judge? Only people each searching out our own way some christian, buddist...pagan....wherever your life takes you. When you find something that brings you solace, no one has the right to judge. Jesus himself said that we are not to judge others, lest we be judged ouselves. Take care Peace and love be with you i am of christian faith, and i vow not to judge others. we are all free and have a God given right to choose.
goodgirl	for bohemian pirate	#17	[-]
Posts: 34 (02/04/09 01:52:55) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	NOTE...that last reply of mine was for Bohemian Pirate...
Jason		#18	[-]
Posts: 11 (02/09/09 04:30:12) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Yeah Bohemian Pirate has a good reason to think that way, i just want to be loved but everybody has just gotta overcomplicate things, like when did a simple hug become more than a hug? now its something with 50 reasons why not to hug and 2 reasons why to hug its tireing just to figure it out. too meny people makeing other people in there minds, too much demonizeing everybody seriusly has a reason nomatter how bad they act, too much "this ones bad that ones good" preaching about people, just today i discovered the media make's women out as nothing more than sex objects.. perhaps im slow but thats not right no wounder men mistreat women and women hear this crud about guys like you to do this soo they do it cause they just want to be loved but there signing in for alot of hurt cause the guys just think ohh there for sex and the poor girl thinks if hes attracted to me he loves me, theres just too much perversion portrayed and belived as the "Norm".. its just soo sad too me how bad things have got sigh.. wana cry but try noto.. well now im fine gosh but anyways> Girls are not sex objects! & sexual attraction "IS NOT" Love its just the facts of life we mate to make babies, maby im wrong but i think love is the closest of friendship or maby its blissfull madness. Okay im ranting and im sorry im quitting now........
anotherkindofgreen		#19	[-]
Posts: 2 (02/10/09 07:15:52) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	the things my friends have been stressing lately for me that has been very hard but important to recognize is that a lot of the time i struggle with feeling so hopeless because i get really tired of constantly hurting people out of fear and anger that I love very deeply. It reflects poorly on my faith, and makes me feel like i dont deserve the people i love in my life. (well i really don't...) and certainly makes it hard to accept God's grace because none of us deserve that. Anyway, what my friends have been stressing is that until we learn to love ourselves we can't show God's love to the people we want to love. We have nothing to give others until we take care of ourselves first, and that requires seeking God and letting him work on your heart so he can teach you to love and grow in His love first, that can then be brought upon yourself and finally given to others. It's hard, because we fail...we let people down, we hurt them, over and over we fall down (and that's everyone!) and yet God will teach us how to serve others when we are ready. One of my favorite quotes: "We have nothing to offer others if we don't know that we are loved by God" -Nancy Ortberg "when you feel abandoned by God yet continue to trust him in spite of your feelings, you worship him in the deepest way" -C.S. Lewis
goodgirl	bohemian	#20	[-]
Posts: 68 (03/17/09 01:35:23) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	hey there... i also hate being judged by self righteous christians. I feel strongly, that we do not have the right to judge another human being's choice of religion...because we are NOT God. Guess who gave us the freedom to choose our religion/belief system ? THE creator ...Himself...or Herself be that what you believe. I truly truly think that respect for one another is paramount to all... and yes i am a Christian.

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