For Parents (BPD)

are they ruined?

feeds@yuku.com (amarnold) — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 02:13:21 GMT

I sat with my 8 yr old daughter tonight as she tried to fall asleep and we were just talking and somehow we ended on the subject of step-mothers. She said she wanted one and I told her that the only way she could have a step-mom was if me ans her dad divorced and then he re-married. I continued by saying"You wouldn't want me and daddy to break up would you?". To my surprise she said sometimes. She started to cry and said she had a secret to tell me but she was afraid to tell...

Anyone have a second to help?

feeds@yuku.com (sybil) — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 13:01:07 GMT

I was wondering if you had a child call you out mid- MAJOR - outburst. As in feeling completely low, worthless, life is gone WRONG and everyone is against you - you're cutting people off, defaming them etc. - and to your kids too. I'm talking major overhaul of life, anger, frustration etc. What would be the best way to approach it? Where it might sink in to you that you're being somewhat irrational in your reaction and detrimentally so.

I have thought of various...

Father of 2 autistic sons different mothers... BPD DX for myself

feeds@yuku.com (roncorbin) — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:36:42 GMT

My name is RON I am 32. I live in Indiana.

I have 2 autistic sons from different mothers. One I see on a regular basis, the other she wont let me. Nothing to do with my DX, just personal reasons.

Environmental? Genetic? I dunno... Never concerned myself with it, either way they have autism. And I am done having children.
My oldest son is fine, 3 years on honor role multiple time Student of the month, and a GREAT kid.

My illness rared it's ugly head when...

bpd and my child protection case (do you have kids in foster care?)

feeds@yuku.com (bpdmommy) — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 21:25:30 GMT

The Children's Aid is using my just diagnosed BPD to seek crown wardship.... i'm not sure what to do and am wondering if anybody else is going through what i am. ive been in outpatient rehab for a year, and in fact my place in that rehab program may now end because of the course of action.... i just found out so im not even sure of my options or chances....

Seeking attention from me?

feeds@yuku.com (2confused) — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 10:13:40 GMT

I've always found my relationship with my children quite difficult (I have a nearly 2 year old and a just 3 year old) as I was always so caught up in trying to do what was the 'right' thing to do (breastfeeding, cloth nappies, late weaning etc) that the bonding part didn't come naturally. I have little patience when it comes to doing activities with them, their father is much better at that sort of thing. I do baking with my eldest and colouring with my youngest, but I find it...

BPD and having kids

feeds@yuku.com (mom2simon) — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 18:03:05 GMT

I'm new to this site but another thread sparked the idea for this one.

Psychiatric disorders are genetic. After being diagnosed with BPD and before having children, I would suggest that you research your family's medical history and more importantly their psychiatric medical history. If had known what I know now, I would've made different choices 11 years ago. I love my son, he means the world to me and I'd never...

I have BPD.. Should I have kids?

feeds@yuku.com (Vanilla Dragonfly) — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 04:18:15 GMT

I'm 25 and the clock is ticking. If I have kids I want them before 30.
Now with having BPD I was wondering what I might endure with going through with having kids... both with handling pregnancy, hormonal changes, and after the child is born. What if I crash again? What will I say when my kids asks about the obviously self inflicted scars all over my body? What troubles may I come across and how can I work through them.

Please anyone with BPD fill me in on having kids...

BPD Parenting...Thoughts

feeds@yuku.com (Qelyn) — Fri, 30 May 2008 14:05:53 GMT

There is a lot of guilt wrapped up in being a BPD parent......

For one I worry that I will pass these traits along to my kids, for another I have so many problems with coping it is good that my hubby is "normal".... However then there is the guilt that he does so much regarding the kids because of my inability to do so.....

I just hope my oldest is not damaged since I could not admit or understand those traits until recently and even now have problems seeing them soon...

Child Custody

feeds@yuku.com (Neysa Cori) — Tue, 27 May 2008 08:24:10 GMT

Im having a really tough battle in court over my son. IM COMPLETELY STABLE but the whole BPD thing is always brought up and thrown in my face. Just because I have BPD doesnt mean Im a bad mother. I love my so with all my heart and want him with me desparately

Can't shake guilt

feeds@yuku.com (TiredSearcher) — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 04:07:21 GMT

I started losing my grip on being able to hide my illness when my son was about 4 years old. That was when all of my past abuse started to rear it's ugly head. By the time he was 8, I had been in therapy but was going down hill in a very bad way.
I was a good mom when he was born and younger. I am very grateful for that. But by the time he was 8, I was so deep into depression among other things I was barely functioning. I was literally in my chair in front of the tv not even aware it was...

mood disorder-unspecified

feeds@yuku.com (someonelsehasit) — Sat, 17 Nov 2007 13:17:13 GMT

my 6yr olds dx right now

Early signs of BPD

feeds@yuku.com (wirehair3) — Tue, 13 Nov 2007 14:08:01 GMT

Does anyone here with a child with Borderline Personality Disorder look back and remember struggles with behaviour when they were young? What were they? The Mother of by 4 stepchildren has BPD but did not raise them. Once child has shown behavior that I worry may have been inherieted, but she is only 12yrs old presently...moody, makes up many stories, and seems to want/not want to drive me away.

New here

feeds@yuku.com (TwinMommy44) — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 01:38:43 GMT

Hello everyone...I am a 21 yr old mother to 2 yr old twin boys. I was diagnosed with BPD about 7 years ago but never put much stock into it because it was still a very general "label" then..I've reread things about it more recently and it definitely fits.

I don't really know what I want to say in this post but I don't have anyone to talk to and I'm feeling very hopeless..recently I can barely cope with every day life and and have been a SAHM of my twins since they were born...

Trying to Cope

feeds@yuku.com (seekshelp) — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 08:02:23 GMT

IMPORTANT NOTICE RE: WHO MAY POST ON WHICH BOARDS

feeds@yuku.com (El) — Tue, 30 Jan 2007 15:26:17 GMT

The majority of message boards here are for those who suffer from BPD. There are three boards that are open for those who do not suffer from BPD ("nons"); the open forum, the DBT forum, and the general discussion forum for clinicians.

If you do not have BPD, please restrict your posts to...

"Foul" Language

feeds@yuku.com (El) — Sun, 28 Jan 2007 12:16:32 GMT

To All,

When several of the message boards were changed from moderated to unmoderated, foul language began to creep into many posts. Before then, when moderators had to read every post and reply before deciding to release it, we deleted messages that did not adhere to the board rules. Unmoderated boards rely on the "honor system" to a large extent; members are being trusted to follow the rules.

Moderators have kindly been editing posts containing foul language. In that...

Anyone else???

feeds@yuku.com (Jamie107) — Mon, 22 Jan 2007 11:25:48 GMT

Hello,
I'm Jamie and I'm not new to this site but I'm new to this board "Parents". Does anyone here have problems feeling attatched to there children and afarid to be alone with them for scared they might hurt them physcially because of anger?

*me*

need help with reading a psychologists report

feeds@yuku.com (panickedmomof2) — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 01:31:01 GMT

OK I KNOW THIS PROBABLY ISNT THE RIGHT PLACE TO PUT THIS BUT AM HOPING SOMEONE CAN UNDERSTAND ALL THIS JARGON AND HELP ME OUT.

Ok just received in the mail today a 10 page report from the pyschologist for my dd. I have never been more confused trying to read it in my life . Talk about not saying what she is dx'ed with upfront. I'll try to let you all know what I can tell from what he wrote on the report. OK here it is

Results of psychological assessment:

They used the...

Chatroom rules regarding SI discussion- #8

feeds@yuku.com (ladyvet) — Fri, 03 Mar 2006 13:40:33 GMT

I am posting this since there has been SI discussion in the chatroom and people have complained to me about it. Everyone is expected to read and follow these rules.

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so mad at son right now

feeds@yuku.com (panickedmomof2) — Thu, 12 Jan 2006 01:14:30 GMT

i could have killed my son today. he asked if he could go rollerblading so i said yes even thoughit was after his in time. i heard the dog barking and i thought that maybe he locked the door on himself. i could have died he never shut the door and my 18mos old went out and was half way in the street and this is the main street through our town. i ran straight out into the middle of the street without even looking because she was heading straight towards the middle. she was laughing away while...